Have you ever gotten a glance of a woman and found yourself wanting to be able to approach her really badly, but for some reason there was something that was holding you back? Chances are, if that has happened to you in the past, then you have missed out on some great opportunities to meet women. When you feel anxious about approaching a woman and that feeling keeps you from taking the action that you want to take, then you know that it’s time to do something about it.
While there are many ways that you can go about trying to handle this issue, it’s usually best to do the things that are going to help you get over it as soon as possible. That way, you don’t have to worry about what is going to happen the next time that you glance at an attractive woman that you would like to be able to approach. You’ll no longer be hesitatnt, you’ll be taking action and actually getting to know her.
Here is some advice on what you can do to approach a woman without feeling anxious about it:
1) Don’t make the assumption that you are going to have to really impress her to make her want to get to know you.
If you feel like you really have to be the most impressive guy that she has ever met in order to get her attention, then guess what? You are always going to feel anxious about making the approach because that is a lot of pressure to put on yourself and the situation. On the other hand, if you tone down the importance of having to impress her and instead focus on the fact that you just want to get to meet her, you should find that a lot of that anxious feeling about approaching her subsides.
2) Do have something that you can use to open a conversation with her.
Of course, you are going to have to be the one who opens the conversation if you are the one who approaches her. It may happen that sometimes the woman you walk over to will be the one who starts the talking, but usually it is up to you as the one who made the approach. As long as you have something in mind that you can use as an opener, then you really shouldn’t feel too much pressure about the situation.
3) Don’t assume that she is out of your league.
Another mistake that guys who have approach anxiety tend to make, is they tend to feel like the woman who makes them feel anxious is out of their league. As long as you make it seem like she is off limits to you or better than you in your own mind, you are always going to feel that anxiety about making the approach. When you can reframe the situation and see that she is no better than you are, you should also find that you don’t feel nearly as nervous about approaching her.