So, where does one start the process? Here are a few pointers:
For starters, it is recommended that singles, in the 50 plus group, join one large, general site as well as a smaller site specifically targeted to their age group. A Google search will bring up a number of online dating sites from which to choose from.
Before joining a site, decide what it is that you want out of the site. Are you looking for friendship, do you want to date, are you looking for a companion, or searching for the love of your life? It can save a lot of wasted effort, too, if you think carefully about the traits of the people you’d like to meet before starting your search. Do you want someone in the same line of work as you? Someone retired? Does age matter to you? Would smoking or drinking be problematic? Would you prefer an introvert or an extrovert? You get the idea. You may find yourself interested in people who have only some of the traits you’ve determined as important and that’s perfectly o.k.
Write an honest, descriptive profile. Avoid exaggeration or flat-out lying. Be yourself.
Make sure to post a flattering photo of yourself, as well. Make it a recent photo, though. If you’re unsure about the picture you’re thinking of using, ask your friends for their opinion.
Now that you’ve chosen the dating site, have decided what you want from the site, the type of people you hope to meet, and you have posted a profile along with a current photo, it’s time to start searching the profiles of others. Take your time, get a feel for the site, and learn how things work. Remember, you don’t have to talk to the very first person who meets your criteria. You may find yourself communicating with someone who is rude, disrespectful, or who you simply aren’t interested in meeting. Simply end communication and block them from contacting you again. It’s unfortunate, but it does happen.
Eventually, though, you will find yourself communicating with someone in whom you are interested and the two of you agree to meet. Following are some tips about how to handle that first date:
Your first date should be held in a public place, preferably during the day.
Make sure to let someone know where you’re going, with whom, and the length of time you expect to be on the date.
Always take a cell phone with you. If you drive, park close by and don’t let your date walk you to the car at the end of the date. Don’t even let them know the type of car you drive.
Until you get to really know and trust the people you meet online, it’s wise to not reveal any personal information that could put you at risk.
Awkward pauses can seem to stretch on forever during a first date! So, to keep the conversation going, you might prepare at least three conversation starters. You can ask about their last memorable meal, or places they want to visit. Movies, books, and television shows are also good conversation starters.
It’s important to remember that if, for any reason, you begin feeling uncomfortable during the date, make an excuse and leave.
Dating, even for those over age 50, should be fun and enjoyable. There is no reason to be alone. A simple click of the mouse could bring a new friend or the love of your life.