Questions come up every day these days. So many people around the world are searching for answers on how to be successful in their relationships. The scariest thing for a couple to see now days is how many marriages are ending in divorce. What is causing all the drama in these relationships that is forcing most of the world’s population to be single and ready to mingle, but not commit? Has the entertainment on TV taken us to the point where we don’t want to agree, don’t want to be faithful, and don’t want to commit? It seems like the IN thing is to be single, open to date as many people as you want. Almost everything on television promotes being alone, free to do things however the wind blows. And it’s not just with the younger guys who don’t want to commit, it’s now the men in their 40s who are divorce who date, but are terrified of remarrying thinking the next woman is going to be as crazy as the first one. How do we stop the cycle of divorce and lack of commitment?
Ladies, I think it’s us! We’ve gotten too relaxed with the rules of relationships. It seems that many ladies are so despite to have a man that they’re willing to accept any treatment from the guy just because she’s afraid of being alone. In the worst case scenario, women die in abusive relationships because instead of walking out the door, we continue to stay taking the same routine. I think it’s time for us to go back to the basics… RELATIONSHIP 101! Ladies, it’s time we demand some respect, some commitment, the real love that our grandparents had that allowed their marriage to live for 50+ years. It’s time we put our foot down and if he doesn’t like it and leaves…
Then so what! Let him leave. He wasn’t the right man for you anyways. We need to let them be the man they were placed on earth to be. God didn’t place men here to abuse women, to lay in the house all day and let the lady work, he placed men here to be a PROTECTOR, A king, A LOVER, and over all a PROVIDER! Ladies our job is to help! To keep that man on his toes, to feed him good, to love him good, to be of encouragement to him, and Ultimately for us to combine our beings to make an enormous impact on this earth.
1. No Sex for 90 Days. (Sex in the beginning, spoils EVERYTHING) Build the Momentum!!
2. Court! Do things the OLD way. (Go to the Movies, Dinner, Spa)
3. Ask Questions. (What did you enjoy best while growing up? What’s your favorite color?)
4. Discover what you like best about one another.
5. Meet each other’s family. (Make sure you can stand them!)
6. Talk about planning for a family. (Check to see if your plans are similar)
7. Take a weekend getaway. (Get out of your normal environment to explore something new)
These are very small steps, but I believe these 7 Key steps will start the path of a beautiful Marriage!