You are probably in the middle of a relationship which you are thinking of getting to the next step. You’ve been with a bloke who has always made you feel cherished, being unique to the rest of the others in the past, and you’re pretty sure you need to spend your entire life with him. Needless to say, the idea of marriage is something scary for some other guys out there, despite how caring and warm they can be with their girlfriends. Hence, you will need to make sure he’s all set for some settling down with you. If he is not, below are some signs to let you know that you should take your time and not rush things.
There is no financial strategy in place for you two. Marriage is all about living with each other and being able to assist each other through the good times and the bad, even more so financially. Money is always likely to be a deal breaker when it comes to relationships, and this will have to be talked about before any plans of marriage are brought to attention. Will the both of you go on with your jobs? Is a joint account likely to be created in the near future? Who’s likely to be paying the monthly expenses? These are matters which are of extreme seriousness, and should be planned out carefully.
There are a few things in the past which need extra discussion. There will always be skeletons in the closet, but these things might have an impact on how the marriage plays out. He’s not exactly willing to tell you all about himself yet, and you will wish to be patient about it. There may have been a few devastating experiences in the past that still need to be discussed, like a former love affair, a criminal history, psychological difficulties or other situations.
He does not in any way, seem to be too welcoming of your other traits. Sure, the both of you are happy for the most part, but there are just some attitudes of yours that he cannot seem to fathom or accept that easily. It goes without saying, you would like to change for the better, but then again there is always a compromise. You may also have to change him, but it’s never that easy. It has to happen from both sides of the relationship.