If you find yourself asking “How can I be a good husband?” then that means that you are well on your way to becoming one. Just asking yourself this question means that you already have the most important quality of a husband – love for your wife. After all, why ask that question if you don’t care what your partner thinks of you?
To answer the question however, can be easier said then done. So, here are some tips on how to be a good husband.
Stay Affectionate
Be the same sweet and caring guy that you were before the marriage. It may not look like it, but wives appreciate certain affection from their husbands no matter how small it is. Perhaps bring her some roses at the end of the day or take her out to dinner in a romantic setting. It doesn’t have to be extravagant. As long as the gesture shows affection, your partner will be happy for it and reward you with the same feelings.
Listen to Her
Like it or not, women have periods of being emotional. It’s a part of their nature, and as a good husband, it is your role to listen and pat her on the back when she’s having problems. Know when to criticize and when to be a silent sounding board for her problems.
Leave Something for Yourself
Being a good husband doesn’t mean you always have to answer to her needs. Remember that marriage is a partnership, so sometimes your wife should be the one giving way instead of the other way around. To do this, don’t be afraid to talk to her about your own problems and insecurities. Open up and a good wife will give you the same support and love you have shown her.
Let It Go
Don’t hold on to the little stuff. Everyone has bad habits and chances are you have some that she doesn’t like. If it’s inconsequential, then simply let it be. Only bring it up if the problem becomes too repetitious to ignore. However, give this observation in a non-confrontational manner.
Respect the Vows
Husbands are supposed to love, protect and remain faithful to their wives so follow through with that. Physical aggression is never the answer and cheating can be disastrous to any relationship. Never talk about your wife behind her back, even to trusted friends. If you have a problem, tell her about it first. Imagine how your wife will feel if she finds out from a third party about complaints you have in the relationship.
Maintain Physical Intimacy
Physical intimacy is a crucial part of any marriage so make sure to keep the fire burning in the bedroom.
Of course, those aren’t the only tips on how to become a good husband. When it comes right down to it though, being a good husband means being able to communicate thoroughly with your wife. Telling her how you feel – and being receptive of what she feels – will make it easier for the two of you as a couple to adjust and compromise. Remember that there are no perfect relationships, but with cooperation from both parties, staying happily married is perfectly possible. Most importantly – love your wife. If you love her, being a good husband will naturally follow.