You’ve got the butterflies in your stomach. Your legs begin to dance when you see that special someone you’ve been dating. Your eyes feel as though you dream like never before when you look at them. The best part, you’ve been dating for long enough to take the relationship to the next level, and everything seems to be going off without a hitch. Even after a year. You begin to wonder if it is time to make the big commitment; but, just how sure can you be that you are indeed ready to get married? There are a few tips and advice that will help you to determine if now is the time.
How to Know if You are Ready to Get Married?
1. The first thing to do is to look at both of yours maturity level, in all areas of your life. Are you able to accept constructive criticism from one another? How do each of you handle obstacles that get in the way of your daily course or plans? Do you strive forward? Do you give up? How responsible is each of you? Do you handle your finances wisely? Do you manage your money? Do you have money to manage? These are all habits and traits that you will want to look at to help you to determine if you are ready to take the big step.
2. Look at each of your goals. Have you established long term goals? If one of you has not included a long term relationship that will lead to marriage in your goals, then the chances are that the one that has not, is not ready. If you or your partner haven’t given the thought or planned a future together, then you should discuss this. Most couples that are seriously committed will refer to the future together. If your partner has not, then you need to make certain that you are not in a relationship that your goals are different.
3. Think of each of your behaviors. Does one of you still spend an excess amount of time partying with friends? Does one of you seem to be a bit irresponsible with alcohol or staying out too late and getting to work early? If so, these are signs that you are not ready to settle down.
4. How do you treat one another? Do you feel that you are both treated as well if not better than each would treat themselves? This is what it takes for a marriage to be successful. If one of you tends to be sarcastic or negative towards the other then it definitely is not a wise move to get married. You want to ensure that you each think of the other and put the other first. The last thing you need is a relationship with destructive behavior because of a hot head!
5. Are you financially stable? Is your partner financially stable? One of the major difficulties in a marriage is finances and you need to ensure that you are financially secure going into the marriage.