Being divorced may make it seem like dating has to be harder for you than it is for those that have not had to endure one, but that does not have to be the way that it is if you are able to get over the little bumps in the road and see that things can be easy if you allow them to be. One of the main obstacles that you are going to face if you are divorced and you want to get a girlfriend is to get over the actual divorce itself. You really can’t move forward if you are still living in the past and that means that you really can’t expect to find dating easy if you are still thinking that being divorced is an obstacle for you.
Here are some tips for dating after divorce that should make it easy for you to get a girlfriend:
1) Don’t make the assumption that all women are going to be like your ex wife.
It can be hard to get motivated to get out and meet women if you feel like all women are going to be like your ex wife and that means that eventually the relationship will end. You don’t want to do that to yourself. Remind yourself that there are lots of different types of women out there and you don’t have to end up with a woman who is like your ex wife.
2) Don’t feel like because one relationship devolved, that means that the next one will.
The other thing that you probably are dealing with is the feeling that since your last relationship came to an end, you are going to end up going through that cycle once more. Every relationship is different and just because one ends, it does not mean that the next one will.
3) Don’t go on and on about your divorce when talking to women you might be interested in.
You don’t have to keep it a secret, but you certainly don’t want to make it the main topic of conversation, either. You can easily make a woman feel like she is going to be compared to the ex wife or you may make a woman feel like you are not ready for a new relationship. You want to come across as being someone who is ready to move on and who’s not going to be bringing a lot of emotional baggage into her life if you want a woman to feel like she wants to be your girlfriend.
The best thing that you can do is to really understand how to talk to women and you should find it easy to get a girlfriend.