As a woman, it is natural to get to a point where you feel like you want more from the relationship. This is especially true if you have been with the guy for a long time and you know that he is the one. If you are in a place where you want to get your man to commit, there are things you can do to make sure he does exactly that without regretting his decision. Here are a few things you should do.
Do not Insist or Give Him Ultimatums
If you pressure him into getting committed, most probably he will do the opposite. Men love doing things not because they have been told to but because it is what they want. For you to get your man to commit, you do not have to resort to pressure and ultimatums. Telling him that you are going to leave him unless he commits is wrong and will end up hurting both of you.
Do Not Let Him Enjoy the Benefits of a Committed Relationship
This is another mistake many women make. They go all the way without reserving some things for a deeper more involving relationship. If you are always checking up on him, doing him favors, hanging out with him when he wants to or even cleaning his house, why would he want to commit. He is getting everything a person in a committed relationship is getting, therefore, he will continue in his comfort zone because he is enjoying it that way. And yes, this includes sex. As the saying goes, “Why would your man buy the cow, if he can the milk for free?”
On the same note, you do not have to be available every time he wants you to. Sometimes, you have to cancel plans he might have for the two of you or even ignore his calls and call back later. If every time he calls you or suggests you do something together you drop everything you were doing and follow him, he will never get to commit.
Have Fun with Him
Because you do not get to see him every time he wants you to, he will always be looking forward for the times you share together. To make him want more, ensure that he has the time of his life. This will make him want to have you around all the time, which will end up to him getting committed to you.
Love Him for Who He is, Encourage and Respect Him
If you want to get your man to commit, you need to accept him for who he is. Be his support system. This means that you need to listen more when he talks to you or just encourage him when things get tough. A man’s need for a loving, supportive and strong woman by his side will make him commit faster than anything else.
You do not have to change who you are if you want to get your man to commit. In addition, you need to ask yourself whether you are a woman a man would want to commit to. Most men want a woman who can raise a family, make a home and bring warmth laughter and satisfaction into their lives. Are you that woman? If you are, it will not be long before your man gets to commit to you.