How to Tell If a Friend Wants to Be More Than Friends

Sometimes it gets really complicated when it comes to friends belonging to the opposite sex. The hardest part is that you never know what’s going on in their head. You can deny it all you want but the question does cross your mind every now and then-do they like me or not? And the first mistake that many people make is that they start thinking along the lines of whether or not they want to be more than friends with that person. Unless you are already crushing on them, don’t do that because this will complicate your friendship. Figure out first if that person likes you or not. What this does is that even though you may be repressing or suppressing your own emotions at the moment, you will be saving yourself from a lot of complications and drama. And if you are already crushing on that friend, well there’s not much you can do in this department except maybe hope that they like you back.

Now, to find out what your friend thinks about you, look for signs. Mostly, people give it away in their way of physically interacting with others. For instance, try and find out if they touch you the same way they touch other people of your gender. If you are a girl and you are crushing on a guy, notice if he avoids touching you at all. The same holds true for girls. For example, if they have other male friends, they might hit them playfully, but would avoid doing the same with a guy they like. Or, the opposite might be true; for girls especially. You see, when the sexual tensions begin to build up, many of them figure out some more socially acceptable ways of letting those tensions out.

Another tool is that they may be emotionally forward if they like you, but there still is one topic that they would not like to discuss often, and that would be if they are crushing on somebody.

Once you have an idea as to whether or not they like you, think about what you want; do you want to take the next step, or just let things run their course? However, if you were crushing on them and discover that they don’t think of you in that sense, back off a little bit. This might work and they would feel like something is missing in their life without you.