It’s easy for you to fall back feeling guilty. Making you feel so frustrated. You know your husband all too well. So don’t give up now.
Here are three tips that’ll make rebuilding intimacy less of a struggle.
Giving him respect – to get the attention you deserve.
According to a survey of reconciled couples, an effective way you can do this is by including him in decision-making efforts. You can always get his opinion on matters such as getting the best education for kids.
“I got my husband to give his thoughts on Christmas gift for our little princess”, says Lisa, one of the surveyed.
The idea was to make your husband feel important and appreciated. His ideas or suggestions, when asked, will give him the impression that you value his opinions. When taken, you will give him the impression that you respect his decision. But there’s no obligation for you to use his advice.
You merely getting him involved – seeking his assistance – so that he doesn’t feel left out. Nothing works better than giving your husband the respect he deserves. You are speaking to his egos.
Giving him admiration – so you don’t have to struggle winning yours.
Going back to our “giving him respect” tip, as you do that, you secretly have given him the admiration he deserves. What you can do now is to intensify his feeling towards you.
Here’s how for example… let say you took his advice, and the results were exactly as you want it to be, don’t just thank him. Take it further. Let him now that you took his advice and you got the desired result. Then you thank him for giving his input.
It’s much more powerful than just a ‘thank you’.
Giving him trust – so you can regain his trust.
You think you have shattered the trust he gave you? So much that you think it’s impossible to regain it back?
Now here’s how you can give him trust and in return you will win it back from him – a lot sooner and less of a struggle.
Let him do laundry, if he wants to. Let him do the dishes after dinner, if he insists. Or if he wants to cook for himself… let him. Because you’re letting him do what he thinks is best for him. Trying to get in his way (even if you meant good) most likely will backfire you. Of course you can ask him if he needs help.
If he insists doing it alone, find something else to do, like ironing his work attire for the next day. But make sure to ask first what he’ll be wearing – saves you the trouble.
As you can see our tips centers around communication, which will remove awkwardness as you touch. “You can rebuild intimacy without much struggle, this way” – as proven by the survey.
How this is possible… simple, none of your efforts above (if you do it) will force you into talking about relationship problems. Your efforts to rebuild intimacy become less frustrating. You won’t be stressed out – you can sleep better at night. And wake up the next day feeling light and easy.
Now some may suggest that you deal with rebuilding intimacy directly with your husband. But mostly, that could leave you in arguments, even the possibilities of losing affection completely. Handling delicate matters such as rebuilding intimacy, indirectly, often pays better dividends. Things will be sort out smoothly, better without arguments. You won’t feel frustrated – your mood won’t be affected.