Relationships are certainly not always rosy and perfect even though we would like for them to be. But some relationships are much more complicated than they should be. This could be brought about by one person and their particular behavior. So how do you determine if they are worth being with, or if they are actually toxic?
A toxic partner in a relationship never brings as much to the relationship as their partner. It could be because they are not into being a couple as much as the other person. But it could also be because they are not able to commit at the level they need to. Is either one of these reasons enough justification to end it? Maybe, and maybe not.
If the toxic individual doesn’t put as much into the relationship as you, then you need to ask yourself if it has always been this way. If so, what attracted you to them in the first place? Did you think they would eventuality change for the better?
If they weren’t like this at the beginning of the relationship, but developed this attitude along the way, what caused this change in perception? Is it something you can pinpoint and if so, can it be corrected? Do they even want to correct it? They have to be willing to change for the relationship to be worth you fighting for.
If it has always been this way and they are not able to commit at the same level you are, why is that? Is it because they lack the social and coping skills, or because they simply don’t think it is worth the effort? If they are nonchalant about it, then you already have your answer.
When someone in a relationship is toxic, one of two things will happen. They will either see their problem or problems and correct their ways or their attitude, or they will bring the other person down and both will become toxic. At that point, the relationship is doomed unless a professional intervenes.
Relationships are too important to be in one with a toxic partner. But you can only put in so much effort to try to get them to make the necessary changes. After that, you need to decide if you want to waste your time, or look for someone who doesn’t poison a relationship with you.
If this last effort doesn’t bring them around and show them their issues, then the relationship needs to end before you lose sight of what a healthy relationship really is.