Ladies, does this sound somewhat familiar to you?
You happen upon this great guy. Then you start dating and your relationship is going well for the first few weeks or even months. You’re confident that he is truly into you — possibly even in love with you.
And then all of a sudden, just when you get around to thinking he’s Mr. Right, your boyfriend loses interest in you and starts to pull away.
In the days and weeks to come, you spend most of your time replaying your last conversation with him in your mind, searching for clues as to what could possibly have caused your breakup.
What did you do or say?
What shouldn’t you have said or done?
You ask yourself, “What happened?” “Where did I go wrong?”
By and by, when you can’t find anything that you could have done wrong, you begin to wonder if there’s something wrong with him.
Maybe he has intimacy issues, maybe he has a drug problem, could be he met someone else. Could he be gay?
When a guy breaks off a relationship, the gal wonders where she messed up, and tries desperately to win him back.
A woman’s natural tendencies are often a contributing factor in the breakup. Here’s something you can do to ward off sabotaging your efforts to win your boyfriend back.
Using strategies that work on women is the most common mistake made when trying to win a man back.
Why do most formulas for getting a man back fail?
They fail because they don’t zero in on or deal with the catalyst of why your boyfriend left you or lost interest to start with. So even if you are able to get your boyfriend back by implementing one of the standard ploys, it will be short-term at best in as much as the reason for your breakup is still unresolved.
The fact that men aren’t usually inclined to go public with their feelings long enough for you to decipher just what it was that prompted them to leave complicates the problem.
Oftentimes there are underlying influences that they may not even be aware of, that make them routinely try to neutralize relationships that are going well.
This forces a woman to make an educated guess as to what caused him to break up with her. More often than not, they guess wrong and try to fix the wrong thing.
Here are a few of the more common reasons for why a fella loses interest in a relationship.
*Guys lose interest because you are too needy
If you’re always concocting little reasons to touch base with your boyfriend or invite him over, he will see that as an indicator that you are not able to stand on your own two feet.
If you just can’t bring yourself to get rid of that spider in the corner, phone a friend to do it. However, if your beau is already at your place when you discover Mr. spider, feel free to hand him a flip-flop and let him wield the noble footwear as defender of his mate.
Keep your self-respect and the number for a car mechanic, plumber, electrician and any other handyperson you might ever need.
*Guys lose interest because you give into sex too soon
Take it slow, you don’t want to be a prude, but you don’t want to be a floozy either.
Be that package under the Christmas tree that he can’t wait to open. You have everything to gain because the sex isn’t going to make him stay with you if the relationship was in peril from the get go.
*Guys lose interest because the love interest is too available
Men like the hunt. They love it when the “prey” teases them a little.
Don’t always be the dependable weekend date that he can make a last minute call to. Don’t always be there, don’t always pick up the phone.
You had a life before he came along. That’s one of the things that lured him to you. Think back to that time and become a mystery to him again.
*Guys lose interest because you are too competitive
If a gal comes across as “too much,” a guy will feel like he’s not deserving of her and that she is entitled to someone more on her own level. The male ego can be a fragile thing at times.
By all means, be strong and know your own mind, but be careful not to flaunt it. Keep that to yourself. He would rather see your softer and nicer side. Display your dominance at work. That’s where it serves you better anyway.
On the other hand, never, under any circumstances back down if anyone challenges you in public in as much as you feel your boyfriend might think it unladylike. Stand your ground when it is necessary.