When we step into the world of online romance it can seem like we’ve slipped into another universe altogether, where we no longer communicate with humans but with mystery beings who solely possess a virtual presence.
But we’re not. We’re talking to real people and social manners and etiquette, including of the dating kind, don’t (or at least shouldn’t) differ so greatly from the real world. Except that we don’t have to worry (yet) about who’s going to foot the bill. It’s just two people having a chat, getting to know each other and seeing where things will go. That’s not so scary now, is it?
As much as I hate to say it according to contemporary heterosexual dating rules men, generally, should still take the lead. It’s just the way things roll. So It may be the case that a few online dating tips for men go a long way, and if you feel like you need some then you’ve come to the right place!
1) Show initiative
As in real life if you like someone, show it. Not with over the top gestures and unwarranted declarations of love but through giving attention, showing interest and making that extra special effort. Don’t leave it an age to reply to messages and don’t be dismissive in your response. We all know that ‘I’ve been busy at work’ actually translates to ‘I just couldn’t be bothered’.
2) Time it right
Once you’ve moved past the ‘how’s it going?’ stage and decided you’d like to take things a step further make your move and ask to meet up. Do it in good time; don’t leave it too long or interest wanes and the ship will sail. Remember online dating should be used as a platform into a real relationship, not as a substitute for it.
3) Make it personal
Not all people are the same. Take the time to get to know your target and find out who they really are. Don’t just lump someone into a category according to their sex, age, origin, occupation etc. etc. It bugs, and it will get you nowhere.
4) Keep it simple
When you’re planning your date keep it straightforward – asking someone you’ve not even met to go on a mini-break to Paris is not going to win any points. A drink is fine, dinner possibly. Or even just a simple walk along the river. Honestly, that’s all it takes.
5) Make your choice, and stick to it
Shop around online by all means, but be subtle about it. Ice-breaker type messages are fine to start with but once you’ve decided who to go for start tailoring your approach accordingly (see ‘keep it personal’ above!). Dating in the early stages doesn’t have to be exclusive but it should be considerate.
These online dating tips for men are intended to help get an online relationship on track. But above all be genuine, be respectful and be yourself; that’s always the best place to start.