Some women are so desperate to get married they seem not to think straight. It is quite disheartening when your girlfriends or worse yet your younger sister got married. Alas, you have dated this man for what seems like ever and still no ring on your finger.
Why do other women meet a great guy and within a year they’re engaged. Or worse yet actually married and they didn’t set out to get married. You want to marry and this great man of yours won’t even hint at marriage.
Won’t commit
He keeps saying “we love each other we don’t need a piece of paper to prove it”. Maybe you don’t but is this the way you want to live forever, not really knowing for sure if he is just going to get up and move out someday?
Without committing to marriage it is much easier to just split. The fact he won’t marry you is a big red flag as how he sees the future with you. He might be comfortable in the situation but also he is leaving the door open for an exit when things are not good.
Wall of resistance
After two years of living together and there are no plans of marriage could be a sign of things are not going so well. When you try talking about marriage and hit a wall of resistance with no valid reason this may mean he has some issues.
When a man will not talk about what the two of you will be doing together five or ten years from now speaks very loudly as he sees no future with you. I am not talking about trips to different places which you both might enjoy. I am referring to big events like buying a house together, children, retirement, etc. These are the things that futures as a couple are based on someone to grow old with and be comfortable with forever.
Divorce can happen
Sure lots of marriages end in divorce and they were never entered to eventually end. People usually get married with intention of it being forever.
Why he can’t see a future with you
Are you doing things to keep this man from committing to you? He can’t see a future with you and this could be for a good many reasons. Are you critical of the way he acts? Are you annoyed because he won’t pick up his clothes or he leaves the cap off the toothpaste, etc.? Are you constantly correcting him or mothering him? If he doesn’t feel respected or feel like your hero it will affect his ego. A man may not even be able to tell you what it exactly is that keeps him from wanting to marry you. Find out what is holding him back and you might be able to turn things around.
Your final choice
Your other alternative is to give him an ultimatum if you can’t figure out why he won’t commit. The ultimatum: “marry me or I am leaving”. But this will be the final curtain for you also, if he says “no”, as you will now need to leave. No going back or changing your mind unless he actually comes with a ring and willing to set a date. Changing your mind can doom you to a game that will go on for years and could still leave you alone. Be sure you are ready to walk away before presenting an ultimatum.